After years of research based on observing married couples
in his “Love Lab,” University of Washington professor of psychology John M.
Gottman claims to be able to predict with 91% accuracy whether a couple will
divorce. He has also discovered that the marriages most likely to succeed are
based on a deep friendship characterized by mutual respect and enjoyment of
each other’s company. Gottman says friendship minimizes adversarial feelings
and enables couples to quarrel without destructive results. He says since “most
marital arguments cannot be resolved,” married couples should work to deepen
their friendship rather than to win their arguments.
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